Heartbroken mum thanks midwives after losing twins
THE day parents-to-be find out the sex of their unborn babies is supposed to be one filled with happiness.
But for one Toowoomba family, Marianne and Scott Barnes, that day was one filled with tragedy.
On December 5 last year, Mrs Barnes lost her twin boys Jason and Christopher due to an infection caused by natural bacteria.
That infection caused the twins to be delivered at 19.5 weeks.
"I've never been through anything like this before," Mrs Barnes, who also has a three-year-old daughter, said.
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"It's been devastating, heartbreaking and of course humbling.
"We've been astounded by such love and sympathy from so many."
But there was one group Mrs Barnes felt needed recognition for helping her through - the maternity staff from the Toowoomba Hospital and My Midwives, particularly her midwife Sonya Sloan.
"The respect shown to our boys Jason and Christopher who we named as they were born and the way in which they held them was phenomenal," she said.
"They chose baby blankets and keepsakes for them. They called them by name, allowed me to hold them, say goodbye and to grieve as they had lived for more than a minute."
Mrs Barnes said sharing her story with family and friends has helped her through her grieving process.
In the process, she said she had found out about friends and family members who had gone through similar situations.
Mrs Barnes hoped by sharing her story she would let other women know it was okay to share their stories of love and grief.
WHERE TO GET SUPPORT
- SANDS QLD Inc provides support, information, education and advocacy for parents and their families who have suffered the loss of a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal death and other losses via telephone and support group meetings.
- Website - http://www.sandsqld.com
- Free call - 13000 SANDS (13 000 72637)