Love without sex and vice versa
Losing February is the debut novel by former North Coast resident, Susanna Freymark. As advertised on the back cover blurb, this is a story of love without sex and sex without love.
Bernie, a journalist, lives in the small fictional town of Repentance Creek, not too far from Byron Bay. Recently separated from a husband who didn't love her in the way she needed, Bernie tries to find her way again in the world. When she makes contact with an old university friend a lingering passion reignites. A flurry of emails, texts and frustratingly sexless encounters draw Bernie into an obsessive love; "...there is a moment... starting in the month of February when I felt so deeply loved, I thought the world was mine and anything was possible."
But this is no fairytale romance - Jack is married and guilty as hell about their involvement. Although Bernie and Jack search for a way to stay together, the end is inevitable. When Jack calls it quits Bernie's love implodes in a binge of risky sexual behaviour.
In an effort to pull herself out of depression, Bernie makes mistake after mistake with a series of unsuitable, predatory and uncaring men she meets over the internet. Most of these men seem almost as sad as Bernie herself.
The plentiful, varied and explicit sex in this book is only sometimes erotic. More often it lends itself to the depressing conclusion that there is a whole lot of bad sex going on out there. The close first person voice of the story makes this an almost voyeuristic experience for the reader.
I was gripped from the first sentence of this book as Freymark skilfully captures the emotional rollercoaster of an adulterous affair. The highs, the lows, the guilt and shame - it's all there. While the story is grim in parts, this is tempered by some beautiful writing on the transformative nature of love; "It spins you around and changes every cell in your body. ... you're never the same once you've been in love."
Losing February could be read as a morality tale - no good can come from adultery - but it is more about the inevitability of love when it strikes. I found it a raw and honest portrayal of the grief that comes from loving the wrong person.
Books reviewed are available at the Book Warehouse, Lismore.
Title: Losing February - A story of Love, Sex and Longing
Author: Susanna Freymark